3 Easy Tips To Manage Your Emotions


Our emotions can appear to seem very complicated and they can sometimes be downright irritating because of their complexity and how they can get in the way of everyday life.

Emotions however were not intended to cause distress and to make us uncomfortable but are instead designed to help us make sense of the world. That being said, many of us feel as if we are being held hostage to our different emotional states.

As well as our minds, emotions have a physical impact on our bodies making them difficult to control and manage. Depression makes us slump and slouch, anxiety causes chest pain and nausea and anger causes hot flushes and high blood pressure.

We also have emotions with positive effects, where laughter and happiness raises our serotonin levels and feelings of success increase our confidence and resilience.

We may feel powerless in the wake of intense negative emotions but we are in fact very capable of monitoring and changing our emotional states. There are some steps we can take to help take control of negative emotions and instead channel them into positive ones.

  1. It’s important to first understand HOW you feel. Does this seem nonsensical? That’s OK. We need to understand what we feel and to correctly label and identify our feelings. Different people feel emotions in various ways. An example is where some people feel numb when sad and others feel very tearful. It is important to understand HOW you feel different emotions and what generally makes you feel these emotions.
  2. Now think about how you would like to feel instead. For those that feel anxious very often, it is important to recognize this emotion and recall what past experiences or future fears are making you feel this way? As soon as you are willing to experience this emotion and learn what you are hiding from or blocking within, you will be able to start feeling better.
  3. Make use of the Super Human Stance. OK, this can be “embarrassing” but it is a stance that targets our physical body and our emotional states as well. By changing our body language, we can alter our perceptions and manage our feelings better.

The Super Human Stance is done as follows:

  • Stand with your feet shoulder width apart and with your hands on your hips. This move opens your chest and secures your footing. In doing so you can evoke a sense of control and confidence.
  • Tilt your head up slightly, relaxing your shoulders, back neck. This helps you to loosen up, helping to manage frustration and anxiety that causes us to tense up.
  • Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth at least TEN times. Be sure to not “shallow breath” but instead use your diaphragm to get as much oxygen into your lungs as possible. Do this slowly, concentrating on feeling the desired emotions.

When you take a moment to calm down and evaluate a situation, you change how you see something. When you change how you see it, you change how you feel about it which gives you control over it.

Learning to manage your emotions might not happen overnight but with practice and persistence, you can manage them in a much healthier way.

Learning to manage your emotions might not happen overnight but with practice and persistence, you can manage them in a much healthier way.


Compiled By Olivia Guerini – Registered Counsellor


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